Why Tantra is Important for a Satisfactory Relationship
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WHY TANTRA IS IMPORTANT FOR A SATISFACTORY RELATIONSHIP?
By Marjo Ramstadius
The traditional love making methods’ system Tantra teaches how to love your partner and be in perfect harmony with him/her. Today, in the West, Tantric teaching has been abused and misunderstood so much that, Tantra notion is generally mixed with excessive, supernatural, random sex! On the contrary, Tantra philosophy, as well as “Taoist love making system” teaches you how to love your partner profoundly and how to be in perfect harmony with each other. Tantra teaching as a whole helps not only to have a better relationship, but also a perfect unification of the souls! Through the practice of Tantra, you will discover yourself as well as your lover in a holistic understanding.
Tantra enhances LOVE in many of the relationships. Love is mostly defined as a kind of empathy towards an object or to a human being transcending the EGO, and giving without any expectation and liking or enjoying him/her/it without any query. If sexual attraction is involved in it, it is more profound and originates from different layers and dimensions of the psyche. Tantric philosophy, takes monogamy as a postulate of the relationship, and aims to build up a harmonious togetherness not just relating the link of the partners to sex and orgasm. In Tantric tradition, the spiritual affection and a deep abstraction of the unified personalities are taken into consideration. If understood properly, Tantra will not only enhance sexual responses of the couples, but also the LOVE between them. Tantric way of living helps you to fall in love with your partner again and again, and when we’re in love we actually think differently. This romantic hypothesis was recently tested by the psychologists Jens Förster, Kai Epstude, and Amina Özelsel at the University of Amsterdam. The researchers found that love really does alter our thoughts, and that this profound emotion affects us in a way that is different than simply thinking about sex.
Tantra improves the sexual responses of couples. Taoist and Tantric texts have been mentioning about the expanded sexual response of male and female for the last 1700-2500 years. Tantra is focused on the five senses in a holistic pattern as ways for us to experience life and pleasure fully. Practicing Tantra, you will often seduce one another with sensual delights such as scented baths, delicious foods and beautiful body decorations as a way to increase sexual sensitivity and expand your pleasure limits. Tantra encourages you to enjoy the journey of making love - the destination may surprise you! The focus in Tantra is on opening to deeper and deeper sensations of pleasure and connection. If you rush to a goal of orgasm, there's a good chance you've missed some very exciting side-roads along the way.
Why good and enhanced sexual response and pleasure is so important?
It has been shown by scientists that sexual response is closely related with the brain and body chemistry. Prolonged and good sex is a way to stay young, since prolonged orgasms and sexual pleasure induces the brain to secrete some certain hormones which delay aging, enhancing immune system, and releasing “the happiness neurotransmitters” such as dopamine, serotonin, endorphine, oxytocin, prolactin, norepinephrine and many others in the brain. The cuddling and love hormone oxytocin is released from the pituitary and it enhances love and attraction of partners during a long sexual act.
In the animal kingdom less than 99 % of all animals, there is no monogamy! However this is serving nature for the perfection of the species. It is different though in Homo sapiens, because the brain chemistry and hormonal structure, as well as the psychology, of human beings are very different and unique compared to the other primates or mammals! We are such a sensitive species we change our own psychology and brain chemistry continuously!
Tantric sexual philosophy, not only reciting sexual techniques, but also how to fall in LOVE, teaches us how to change our own brain chemistry gradually! Meditation, breath exercises, pelvic or other Yoga exercises, asanas, techniques that involve to affect the mind through many senses (five senses or more!) also participate in the formation of a transcendental perception of Tantric climaxes! That is why Tantric orgasms sometimes induce altered states of consciousness (ASC).
The couples who practice Tantra love each other more profoundly and have more empathy! The Tantric sexual techniques are not only means to achieve this state of loving! People discover each other deeper and become more human, unlike the sexual acts of animals in nature! There is no single primate or mammal that has a Tantric-like sexual act or intimacy! Because Tantra requires a deep philosophy, learning and heightened consciousness levels which only Homo sapiens has!
I can write many pages about the merits of Tantric love and Tantra philosophy, however, we are rediscovering ourselves again by Tantra in the 21st Century! These two benefits mentioned in the article may enhance the loving relationships of many couples and probably save many relationships or marriages.
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